What would you do?

• Cash check; send normal thank you note; ignore snarky comment

• Cash check; send chatty note apologizing for being out of touch, updating them on your life

• Cash check, send no note as passive aggressive payback

• Don't cash check; no note

• Don't cash check; send newsy letter updating then on life.

• Don't cash check; send them earnest letter apologizing for past mistakes, pleading for improved godparent-goddaughter relations

• Cash check; use proceeds to pay psychic to explain what I did, exactly, that pissed them off so much that they thought it apporpriate to taint my birthday card with a steaming pile of guilt trip

• Other: