I can't believe how many people voted to mention it to the server. The server is doing their job of taking care of these people who act like they would at their own homes. The server has to suffer through these ill behaved people only to have some of you idiots dump on them because you didn't like another group of customers behavior. Is it the family that is ruder or the whiners that want to bit(# at the servers or to take business away from the restaurant because of being antisocial. I prefer to enjoy the entertainment provided by the masses and understand that I am not the center of the universe.
Daemonic - 13 years ago
The restaurant needs to settle a patron group like that in a private room where they can raise hell and pick their noses unseen by all the rest. Some restaurants have those fold-out doors that can be used to create a space around a private party. This seems like a time to fold the walls out around the family orgy.
People who want to behave this way need to arrange for a space to do it in private.
If I'd been the host and been able to settle them into a private room, I'd have taken my chance to do so between courses. If they don't come back, that's probably all to the good, as they'll leave a godawful mess and cause everyone waiting tables that evening to get lower tips because their customers are annoyed by the racket and the gross-out stuff.
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Jan - 13 years ago
I've worked and managed in food service for years, and of course you should say something to the server. I would never want my customers to be bothered by other customers who are being unruly. I've been asked by customers several times to speak to other customers about their behavior, and although it can be awkward, it's something that you have to do. If the server or bartender can't resolve the situation, then the Manager should be notified to resolve the issue.
Katie - 13 years ago
I would expect something like that at a family restaurant and suck it up, but I don't think that's what this situation was. People bring their kids to ALL sorts of inappropriate places. And the manager can indeed tell the people to leave if they don't quiet down, but then they might get mad and not tip the server (because if these people obviously don't have dining etiquette, then they probably don't realize that managers' decisions aren't the fault of the server). I think it's better to man up and politely mention something yourself if it bothers you.
LAD - 13 years ago
You could just try getting involved in their party...maybe order a drink on their tab and sit at their table? Maybe they would get the idea then? Just a thought...
mom - 13 years ago
Luke 6:42 (The Message)
41-42"It's easy to see a smudge on your neighbor's face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, 'Let me wash your face for you,' when your own face is distorted by contempt? It's this I-know-better-than-you mentality again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your own part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.
Wes - 13 years ago
Seriously, if you're bothered by the family in the restaurant, then
A. Get over yourself, you're too uptight.
B. You made the mistake of picking a family friendly restaurant. If you expect decorum in a public place, either pony up the dough for a fine dining experience, or stay home.
Seriously, when you go to WalMart, you're not allowed to complain that they don't have someone on staff to alter the Chinese-made slacks you just paid $9 for.
Rod - 13 years ago
Sounds JUST like the family I married into! Sorry folks!
Leslie - 13 years ago
Having a large family, I can understand this. But we do try our best to gather our things quickly as possible when leaving. If we bump into someone else ( other patrons) we will say excuse me, I am sorry or something to the effect. We do try to be considerate that there are other people in the restruarant. Maybe it is just a Southern thing.
But no your server can't do anything. He/She can tell their manager and let that person deal with the rude family, as this is part of the manager's job.
But the words "I am sorry" when you interupt another guest, disturb them in some way can mean so much, but you do have to truly mean it and have heard in your voice.
Mary - 13 years ago
You could say something to the manager and if nothing happens, walk out. If enough patrons walk out, the "EVIL Family" would be asked to leave as they are driving away business. The manager needs to know that something is happening in the dining room that will kill his profits. He would certainly want to know. The poor servers can't do much without support from their manager.
Personally, I just walk out of places where I'm uncomfortable. I won't spend money at a place that isn't up to my standards.
Deanna - 13 years ago
Exactly. As a server for MANY years, trust me when I say there is nothing the server can do. Obviously the creator of this poll never waited a table in his or her life, otherwise that comment would definitely not be on there!
Jenn - 13 years ago
Make a comment to the server? What are they supposed to do?
I can't believe how many people voted to mention it to the server. The server is doing their job of taking care of these people who act like they would at their own homes. The server has to suffer through these ill behaved people only to have some of you idiots dump on them because you didn't like another group of customers behavior. Is it the family that is ruder or the whiners that want to bit(# at the servers or to take business away from the restaurant because of being antisocial. I prefer to enjoy the entertainment provided by the masses and understand that I am not the center of the universe.
The restaurant needs to settle a patron group like that in a private room where they can raise hell and pick their noses unseen by all the rest. Some restaurants have those fold-out doors that can be used to create a space around a private party. This seems like a time to fold the walls out around the family orgy.
People who want to behave this way need to arrange for a space to do it in private.
If I'd been the host and been able to settle them into a private room, I'd have taken my chance to do so between courses. If they don't come back, that's probably all to the good, as they'll leave a godawful mess and cause everyone waiting tables that evening to get lower tips because their customers are annoyed by the racket and the gross-out stuff.
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kkekr
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giriei
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ejeje
yui
nickjr
rpr
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6;tl
t5r;ttrkrlk
rtgrtrgt
I've worked and managed in food service for years, and of course you should say something to the server. I would never want my customers to be bothered by other customers who are being unruly. I've been asked by customers several times to speak to other customers about their behavior, and although it can be awkward, it's something that you have to do. If the server or bartender can't resolve the situation, then the Manager should be notified to resolve the issue.
I would expect something like that at a family restaurant and suck it up, but I don't think that's what this situation was. People bring their kids to ALL sorts of inappropriate places. And the manager can indeed tell the people to leave if they don't quiet down, but then they might get mad and not tip the server (because if these people obviously don't have dining etiquette, then they probably don't realize that managers' decisions aren't the fault of the server). I think it's better to man up and politely mention something yourself if it bothers you.
You could just try getting involved in their party...maybe order a drink on their tab and sit at their table? Maybe they would get the idea then? Just a thought...
Luke 6:42 (The Message)
41-42"It's easy to see a smudge on your neighbor's face and be oblivious to the ugly sneer on your own. Do you have the nerve to say, 'Let me wash your face for you,' when your own face is distorted by contempt? It's this I-know-better-than-you mentality again, playing a holier-than-thou part instead of just living your own part. Wipe that ugly sneer off your own face and you might be fit to offer a washcloth to your neighbor.
Seriously, if you're bothered by the family in the restaurant, then
A. Get over yourself, you're too uptight.
B. You made the mistake of picking a family friendly restaurant. If you expect decorum in a public place, either pony up the dough for a fine dining experience, or stay home.
Seriously, when you go to WalMart, you're not allowed to complain that they don't have someone on staff to alter the Chinese-made slacks you just paid $9 for.
Sounds JUST like the family I married into! Sorry folks!
Having a large family, I can understand this. But we do try our best to gather our things quickly as possible when leaving. If we bump into someone else ( other patrons) we will say excuse me, I am sorry or something to the effect. We do try to be considerate that there are other people in the restruarant. Maybe it is just a Southern thing.
But no your server can't do anything. He/She can tell their manager and let that person deal with the rude family, as this is part of the manager's job.
But the words "I am sorry" when you interupt another guest, disturb them in some way can mean so much, but you do have to truly mean it and have heard in your voice.
You could say something to the manager and if nothing happens, walk out. If enough patrons walk out, the "EVIL Family" would be asked to leave as they are driving away business. The manager needs to know that something is happening in the dining room that will kill his profits. He would certainly want to know. The poor servers can't do much without support from their manager.
Personally, I just walk out of places where I'm uncomfortable. I won't spend money at a place that isn't up to my standards.
Exactly. As a server for MANY years, trust me when I say there is nothing the server can do. Obviously the creator of this poll never waited a table in his or her life, otherwise that comment would definitely not be on there!
Make a comment to the server? What are they supposed to do?