Its all about Love !!! First if someone is Financially secure and stable . I don't see anything wrong having a child or get pregnant @ that age. if you can raise a child to be a good human being go for it.
trish - 13 years ago
I do think it is too old, some women who started the change of life in their late 40's commented on having young children to take care of and it was exhausting for them to have to cope with both at the same time. There is a time for having children, it is strange to see women of that age having babies. I am 50 and my daughter has three young girls, they wear me out. They take a lot of looking after and they need a lot of patience. To have an aging parent have to contend with young ones full of life is hard work, it was strange to see older mothers with babies when i had my children in my 20's. It is a choice, but i believe it is a burden for the children in the long run. I do not see it as a battle of the genders, men can father babies for most of their lives, but women do most of the child care. They might live long enough to see them through the first few decades, but that is not enough.
Ella - 13 years ago
First off, I celebrate all women, not matter what age or size, and I understand the joys and how beautiful it must be for 50+ moms to conceive but it's more about the child.
I don't think it is fair to put your child into that position. It's not ok to say " my children don't have to take care of me when I'm older" because they will , because they love their parents.
In my opinion it is unfair to put a 20-25 year old into that position because you just do not know what the future will be. You could very well be a super healthy 70 year old, but things could turn out differently too. I am 25 , I can't imagine my mom being 75 or 80 years old. I don't think it's morally wrong but I do think it's practically wrong on so many levels.
I am not discriminating women, I have the exact same opinion on men getting babies when they're +50.
You know, it's not the 17th Century where maximum life expectancy is about 60. Having children at 50, these days, usually mean you'll be around until the kid's in their 30s, when children should be off on their own living adult lives, anyway. You may never get to meet a grandchild, but that doesn't make you a bad parent, either.
Obviously, you grow more tired as you age, but when kids are their most active, your 50s are the new 40s. I don't believe that any women who do have children in their 50s actually believe this is how they always planned it, but you have to imagine that any woman who will spend thousands upon thousands for science's help will be just as dedicated as a mother in her 30s. If a doctor deems them healthy enough to carry a child (or twins), and their heart is in the right place, who are we to tell them they should have done all this 20 years ago?
Kristine Taylor - 13 years ago
If men can create babies and are given medical help to do so thru Viagra...how is a woman having a baby late in life-due to medical intervention- any different? Although the risk to the child remain equal..as in poor quality sperm for him...aging uterus for her... He suffers no medical consequence (except a possible heart attack) well into his 80's.
Why should women limit themselves when the technology is there? It is pretty limited as it is to the wealthy! If I could afford it, I would do the same! Not even yet into my 50's (but close) I can't conceive. I have two sons in their 20's and now am with the love of my life. THAT'S what happens! Life moves on, You marry, have kids..THEN find love! I would love to have a child with my guy and he would LOVE to have one with me! We want to have that connection! We would both be far better parents now than when we where in the *viable* age!
Its all about Love !!! First if someone is Financially secure and stable . I don't see anything wrong having a child or get pregnant @ that age. if you can raise a child to be a good human being go for it.
I do think it is too old, some women who started the change of life in their late 40's commented on having young children to take care of and it was exhausting for them to have to cope with both at the same time. There is a time for having children, it is strange to see women of that age having babies. I am 50 and my daughter has three young girls, they wear me out. They take a lot of looking after and they need a lot of patience. To have an aging parent have to contend with young ones full of life is hard work, it was strange to see older mothers with babies when i had my children in my 20's. It is a choice, but i believe it is a burden for the children in the long run. I do not see it as a battle of the genders, men can father babies for most of their lives, but women do most of the child care. They might live long enough to see them through the first few decades, but that is not enough.
First off, I celebrate all women, not matter what age or size, and I understand the joys and how beautiful it must be for 50+ moms to conceive but it's more about the child.
I don't think it is fair to put your child into that position. It's not ok to say " my children don't have to take care of me when I'm older" because they will , because they love their parents.
In my opinion it is unfair to put a 20-25 year old into that position because you just do not know what the future will be. You could very well be a super healthy 70 year old, but things could turn out differently too. I am 25 , I can't imagine my mom being 75 or 80 years old. I don't think it's morally wrong but I do think it's practically wrong on so many levels.
I am not discriminating women, I have the exact same opinion on men getting babies when they're +50.
You know, it's not the 17th Century where maximum life expectancy is about 60. Having children at 50, these days, usually mean you'll be around until the kid's in their 30s, when children should be off on their own living adult lives, anyway. You may never get to meet a grandchild, but that doesn't make you a bad parent, either.
Obviously, you grow more tired as you age, but when kids are their most active, your 50s are the new 40s. I don't believe that any women who do have children in their 50s actually believe this is how they always planned it, but you have to imagine that any woman who will spend thousands upon thousands for science's help will be just as dedicated as a mother in her 30s. If a doctor deems them healthy enough to carry a child (or twins), and their heart is in the right place, who are we to tell them they should have done all this 20 years ago?
If men can create babies and are given medical help to do so thru Viagra...how is a woman having a baby late in life-due to medical intervention- any different? Although the risk to the child remain equal..as in poor quality sperm for him...aging uterus for her... He suffers no medical consequence (except a possible heart attack) well into his 80's.
Why should women limit themselves when the technology is there? It is pretty limited as it is to the wealthy! If I could afford it, I would do the same! Not even yet into my 50's (but close) I can't conceive. I have two sons in their 20's and now am with the love of my life. THAT'S what happens! Life moves on, You marry, have kids..THEN find love! I would love to have a child with my guy and he would LOVE to have one with me! We want to have that connection! We would both be far better parents now than when we where in the *viable* age!