Wow Ms. Krysable, thanks for sharing. I too, was in a similar situation in high school. Some friends of mine and I went to some dudes' house. I didn't know the dudes, but my friends said they did. Everyone left except for me and one girl. She was in the room with her dude, and I was in the living room with another. I was probably 16, so I don't remember all the details but he and I ended up going into the room together. We started kissing and he wanted to have sex. I was a virgin and didn't want to so I said no. Luckily I was on my period and that stopped him. He kicked us out and they shot at us as we were leaving. Thank God, everyone was ok. Should I have put myself in that situation? Probably not. Did I learn something? Absolutely.
orthello828 - 12 years ago
Ok, I'm going to be the devil's advocate here. Consider this situation. Let's say on my facebook page I post that I am on vacation and will not be back home until next week. When I get back home I find out that someone from my friends list broke into my house and stole all my belongings. Do I have some blame of putting myself out there to get robbed? If I park my car and leave the keys in the ignition, is it reasonable to put some of the blame on myself if someone else drives away with it? It's the same with the people who chastise women for getting rapped. I don't think anyone in their right mind says that it is not the man's fault for raping a woman and I don't think that was what the husband was trying to say. In this situation she put herself out there to become a victim. It's interesting she waited till after she was with the dude alone, waited till after the dude went down on her, waited till the man was turned on before she decided to play games with him and say no. She had plenty of opportunities to say no a long time ago. The rapist is to blame and the wife didn't make him rape her, no one was disputing that, but in this particular situation she did lead him on and instead of acting immature by threatening to throw hot grease on her husband, she could have took some responsibility for her misfortune for putting herself in that situation.
Nia - 12 years ago
Fuck that asshole. Even in private, that shit is just out of line. I'm glad she didn't throw that hot grease on him. Nobody needs to catch a case because of some ain't shot asshole's opinion. I volunteer for a rape victims' hotline. I have a hard enough time trying to get victims to go to the police before the statute of limitations runs out. Yes, most states have a statute of limitations on rape, even child molestation. I digress, that is a different issue I'm trying to fight. If a thief steals a car, no one blames the theft victim for flaunting their property. "You shouldn't have had that car out in the open. This probably wouldn't have happened if you had just kept it in the garage." Fuck Deelishis' ain't shit husband and any motherfucker that voted no in this poll. You should be swiftly and unapologetically removed from society.
Miss Krysable - 12 years ago
Keeping it real ya'll. I was in that almost exact situation, I was also 18 and a virgin the summer before my sophomore year in school. I didn't even want dude to go down on me for that exact reason, but I finally gave in he started fingering me I told him to stop and then he proceeded to rape me. And FYI didn't turn into a ho afterward and my twitter persona is just that a persona.
1) This is the definition of victim blaming 2) Even if it wasn't about rape, you always ride with your wife in public and settle disputes in private 3) Fuck that dude
Wow Ms. Krysable, thanks for sharing. I too, was in a similar situation in high school. Some friends of mine and I went to some dudes' house. I didn't know the dudes, but my friends said they did. Everyone left except for me and one girl. She was in the room with her dude, and I was in the living room with another. I was probably 16, so I don't remember all the details but he and I ended up going into the room together. We started kissing and he wanted to have sex. I was a virgin and didn't want to so I said no. Luckily I was on my period and that stopped him. He kicked us out and they shot at us as we were leaving. Thank God, everyone was ok. Should I have put myself in that situation? Probably not. Did I learn something? Absolutely.
Ok, I'm going to be the devil's advocate here. Consider this situation. Let's say on my facebook page I post that I am on vacation and will not be back home until next week. When I get back home I find out that someone from my friends list broke into my house and stole all my belongings. Do I have some blame of putting myself out there to get robbed? If I park my car and leave the keys in the ignition, is it reasonable to put some of the blame on myself if someone else drives away with it? It's the same with the people who chastise women for getting rapped. I don't think anyone in their right mind says that it is not the man's fault for raping a woman and I don't think that was what the husband was trying to say. In this situation she put herself out there to become a victim. It's interesting she waited till after she was with the dude alone, waited till after the dude went down on her, waited till the man was turned on before she decided to play games with him and say no. She had plenty of opportunities to say no a long time ago. The rapist is to blame and the wife didn't make him rape her, no one was disputing that, but in this particular situation she did lead him on and instead of acting immature by threatening to throw hot grease on her husband, she could have took some responsibility for her misfortune for putting herself in that situation.
Fuck that asshole. Even in private, that shit is just out of line. I'm glad she didn't throw that hot grease on him. Nobody needs to catch a case because of some ain't shot asshole's opinion. I volunteer for a rape victims' hotline. I have a hard enough time trying to get victims to go to the police before the statute of limitations runs out. Yes, most states have a statute of limitations on rape, even child molestation. I digress, that is a different issue I'm trying to fight. If a thief steals a car, no one blames the theft victim for flaunting their property. "You shouldn't have had that car out in the open. This probably wouldn't have happened if you had just kept it in the garage." Fuck Deelishis' ain't shit husband and any motherfucker that voted no in this poll. You should be swiftly and unapologetically removed from society.
Keeping it real ya'll. I was in that almost exact situation, I was also 18 and a virgin the summer before my sophomore year in school. I didn't even want dude to go down on me for that exact reason, but I finally gave in he started fingering me I told him to stop and then he proceeded to rape me. And FYI didn't turn into a ho afterward and my twitter persona is just that a persona.
1) This is the definition of victim blaming 2) Even if it wasn't about rape, you always ride with your wife in public and settle disputes in private 3) Fuck that dude