This issue usually starts in teen years if ever it would. Most people not under pressure from frequent highlight of this topic will soon outgrow it by the time they are early or mid 20's. However, if you live in communities and families where skin color is everyday talk, you will subconsciously be forced into making it an issue until you begin to process skin color as shallow, trivial or racist. TV stations and Hollywood are doing positive things to heal or prevent the young minds from thinking light skin.
Let us all grow-up above this issue!
Paul - 10 years ago
I find it an interesting topic. See, I grew up as an African American man surrounded by white people. My mother was very light skinned (who could pass for white). My father on the other hand had very dark beautiful skin. So, I came out a light skinned brother. I dated white skinned women exclusively based upon my family background and being surrounded by whites. I bought into the hype! But as I grew much older and I saw at times dark skinned women next to white skin I was always amazed how there was something truly stunning about smooth glowing dark skin next to, dare I say, pasty white skin.
Knowing now that I had been duped by racism. I go out of my way to seek out the pretty dark and brown sisters and walk past the socially constructed "white is right women". I feel cured. I definitely don't want to go back!
This issue usually starts in teen years if ever it would. Most people not under pressure from frequent highlight of this topic will soon outgrow it by the time they are early or mid 20's. However, if you live in communities and families where skin color is everyday talk, you will subconsciously be forced into making it an issue until you begin to process skin color as shallow, trivial or racist. TV stations and Hollywood are doing positive things to heal or prevent the young minds from thinking light skin.
Let us all grow-up above this issue!
I find it an interesting topic. See, I grew up as an African American man surrounded by white people. My mother was very light skinned (who could pass for white). My father on the other hand had very dark beautiful skin. So, I came out a light skinned brother. I dated white skinned women exclusively based upon my family background and being surrounded by whites. I bought into the hype! But as I grew much older and I saw at times dark skinned women next to white skin I was always amazed how there was something truly stunning about smooth glowing dark skin next to, dare I say, pasty white skin.
Knowing now that I had been duped by racism. I go out of my way to seek out the pretty dark and brown sisters and walk past the socially constructed "white is right women". I feel cured. I definitely don't want to go back!