Yes I'm total bottom man , I'm a crossdresser and I love to take cock only . It's hard to find a total top and I always tell anyone I'm 100% bottom .
Gardner - 8 years ago
Don't give up. Sexual gratification is a very strange subject, especially with gay men. I remember before I met my husband, I used to enjoy bottoming, with the occasional topping night with my ex boyfriends. I never hooked up with anybody, just wasn't into that sort of thing, and before I met my baby, I had only dated two men before. When I met him, though, I went super crazy about topping, to the point that I don't feel like bottoming at all. My husband went through the same change, except he was a total top until he met me. It's crazy, some nights we just go on and on. I'm not huge, but I'm not small either, I guess. It's all about finding someone who understands you and doesn't have superficial expectations. Wish you the best, man.
Garnie - 8 years ago
I know how you feel. I am the same when I tried being versatile I would go like a wet noodle and was hard a second before. I feel more like a man being a gay bottom. I know it is so hard to find a man that will TOP all the time I just want one I don't want to have sex with hundreds of men I want just one man that loves being the TOP man and he loves me being his BOTTOM. I agree the gay community thinks if your a bottom you are fem acting. To me being a fem is being really girly in and out of the bedroom I'm not like that at all. I don't want to wear makeup, wear women's clothing with a mix of men's, I'm not a drag Queen. I have not been with many men at all I was a virgin until I was 32 years old that was a combo of reasons. The main reason I wanted the man that I fell in love with to take my cherry and only him. In my 20s I would he a hard on for no reason just be at work and HELLO I thought damn it has a mind of its own. Also I am not huge either it did bother me for a while but I got what I got and those commericals that say you can grow a few more inches will do the research you have to take those pills for life your you lose even more than you want when you stop. I have learned to read the very very fine print.
I was in a popular site and left for 2 years and when I came back to that site everyone went versatile I had to look the damn word up to fine out what it meant and when I did a search for top gay men well I got everyone guys that were tops, bottoms, versatile the search was useless. I work in a factory and people know I'm gay the women do I do not have gay radar a woman must have come up with at term. I can not spot a gay man unless he is a fem or drag queen and some of the drag queens are straight don't forget that.
I feel your pain because I have the same pain in my heart as well. Being a total bottom is just part of who we are their is more to the package than that in the bedroom. The first man I ever saw naked that I can remember was our neighbor he was hot thin and very very hairy and I found out just how hairy damn he was hot and I asked he if he wanted to experiment with me but he said no I was 18 at the time. We never talked about that night again.
Also I have found out that a lot of gay men that I have talked to online enjoy sleeping naked I just thought I was weird for doing it but I'm not. I would love to live in a community that I could work and be naked all the time. I just dont like clothing.
I hope you find your total top man that falls in love with you and you fall in love with him. The gay community needs to GROW THE FUCK UP THE VERSATILE CRAP IS TEARING EVERY COUPLE APART. If you don't believe me just go to a club and take a survey of the men their and tell them to be what they feel they truly desire in their hearts and how many times they have been dumped because of the versatile movement in the gay male community.
Daniel - 8 years ago
Same boat here. I go to a gay bar and hear 2-3 times a night, "If you weren't in this bar, I wouldn't have guessed you to be gay." I routinely have guys sit in my lap, assuming that's what I'm interested in.
Three weeks ago a guy dumped me because he was in his 'power bottom mood' and needed me to top; I told him upfront I've only topped a couple times in my life, the last time was nearly a decade ago.
I like a man's bum- grabbing, playing... Except I have no physical desire to top; even receiving oral sex does little.
I have no answers. I'm wired this way: a gay bottom. With that said, I, too, get left feeling like I'm broken or inadequate.
Christopher - 8 years ago
Thank you for sharing, I'm the same but not a Marine, Wow I've lost many boyfriends too. I gave up but that's me please keep looking for love.
Nemo - 8 years ago
This man would be a god-send to me. I am a total top. Always have been and always will be. I am very surprised to see in your poll that so few men of us are total tops. I take much pride in this as I never had to deal with issues like shame and guilt. I am probably too old for this man but I would say to him "Don't give up hope. There are total tops who would love to be with you and just you :)
Yes I'm total bottom man , I'm a crossdresser and I love to take cock only . It's hard to find a total top and I always tell anyone I'm 100% bottom .
Don't give up. Sexual gratification is a very strange subject, especially with gay men. I remember before I met my husband, I used to enjoy bottoming, with the occasional topping night with my ex boyfriends. I never hooked up with anybody, just wasn't into that sort of thing, and before I met my baby, I had only dated two men before. When I met him, though, I went super crazy about topping, to the point that I don't feel like bottoming at all. My husband went through the same change, except he was a total top until he met me. It's crazy, some nights we just go on and on. I'm not huge, but I'm not small either, I guess. It's all about finding someone who understands you and doesn't have superficial expectations. Wish you the best, man.
I know how you feel. I am the same when I tried being versatile I would go like a wet noodle and was hard a second before. I feel more like a man being a gay bottom. I know it is so hard to find a man that will TOP all the time I just want one I don't want to have sex with hundreds of men I want just one man that loves being the TOP man and he loves me being his BOTTOM. I agree the gay community thinks if your a bottom you are fem acting. To me being a fem is being really girly in and out of the bedroom I'm not like that at all. I don't want to wear makeup, wear women's clothing with a mix of men's, I'm not a drag Queen. I have not been with many men at all I was a virgin until I was 32 years old that was a combo of reasons. The main reason I wanted the man that I fell in love with to take my cherry and only him. In my 20s I would he a hard on for no reason just be at work and HELLO I thought damn it has a mind of its own. Also I am not huge either it did bother me for a while but I got what I got and those commericals that say you can grow a few more inches will do the research you have to take those pills for life your you lose even more than you want when you stop. I have learned to read the very very fine print.
I was in a popular site and left for 2 years and when I came back to that site everyone went versatile I had to look the damn word up to fine out what it meant and when I did a search for top gay men well I got everyone guys that were tops, bottoms, versatile the search was useless. I work in a factory and people know I'm gay the women do I do not have gay radar a woman must have come up with at term. I can not spot a gay man unless he is a fem or drag queen and some of the drag queens are straight don't forget that.
I feel your pain because I have the same pain in my heart as well. Being a total bottom is just part of who we are their is more to the package than that in the bedroom. The first man I ever saw naked that I can remember was our neighbor he was hot thin and very very hairy and I found out just how hairy damn he was hot and I asked he if he wanted to experiment with me but he said no I was 18 at the time. We never talked about that night again.
Also I have found out that a lot of gay men that I have talked to online enjoy sleeping naked I just thought I was weird for doing it but I'm not. I would love to live in a community that I could work and be naked all the time. I just dont like clothing.
I hope you find your total top man that falls in love with you and you fall in love with him. The gay community needs to GROW THE FUCK UP THE VERSATILE CRAP IS TEARING EVERY COUPLE APART. If you don't believe me just go to a club and take a survey of the men their and tell them to be what they feel they truly desire in their hearts and how many times they have been dumped because of the versatile movement in the gay male community.
Same boat here. I go to a gay bar and hear 2-3 times a night, "If you weren't in this bar, I wouldn't have guessed you to be gay." I routinely have guys sit in my lap, assuming that's what I'm interested in.
Three weeks ago a guy dumped me because he was in his 'power bottom mood' and needed me to top; I told him upfront I've only topped a couple times in my life, the last time was nearly a decade ago.
I like a man's bum- grabbing, playing... Except I have no physical desire to top; even receiving oral sex does little.
I have no answers. I'm wired this way: a gay bottom. With that said, I, too, get left feeling like I'm broken or inadequate.
Thank you for sharing, I'm the same but not a Marine, Wow I've lost many boyfriends too. I gave up but that's me please keep looking for love.
This man would be a god-send to me. I am a total top. Always have been and always will be. I am very surprised to see in your poll that so few men of us are total tops. I take much pride in this as I never had to deal with issues like shame and guilt. I am probably too old for this man but I would say to him "Don't give up hope. There are total tops who would love to be with you and just you :)