This happened to me. My best friend was a bridesmaid on the day, but she wasn’t around to help out at all or partake in the fun, just the rehearsal the night before. She couldn’t even be around to get the dress properly fitted. It was stressful for me dealing with her when maids are meant to be MY rock. From experience, I would say, it is the Bride’s right to make it work. Wish I had removed her, so I’m glad this bride did. It should not have ruined a friendship. The potential bridesmaid should know that. It’s not about her, it’s about the bride and groom to be. Friends can show their support in many ways. I would’ve saved myself months of correspondence agony. My friend would’ve still been there for the wedding ???? instead of in the party, as should this woman. The stars cannot always align to cater to the whims of all. It’s life.
Jim - 6 years ago
Hey it’s the women’s special day and she has plans to rock this wedding hard and takes time to plan a wedding and I’m sure the bridesmaid knew well in advance what the dates were for the wedding and if she knew she can’t handle the work load she should of I would love to but I can’t to much at school and I can’t be there for you so then the beautiful bride would understand and ask another person to step in as bridesmaid! The bride been dreaming of this all her life and should go to her do what ever she wants some people think to much into things.
Maya - 6 years ago
If I were the bridesmaid I would feel very hurt by being asked to step down. It would certainly end the friendship, because, hey, you were basically fired for not being able to party all that weekend. I think the bride is being selfish. If she had got a post secondary education, she should know her friend's responsibilities lay with committing to that over and above most all other things in life. Missing an exam or not turning in a paper because your friend needs you to party with her does not fly either asking for a deferral at post secondary institutions. Sure, the bridesmaid could still attend the wedding, but that smacks of being thrown a bone after being treated so rudely. And after the wedding, you are still excluded because you simply could not be there. No, if that happened to me I wouldn't put myself out further for a self-centered person as that. I would send the jumpsuit ( really? For a wedding?) back to her as a wedding present to open at the gift opening , with a nice note attached saying how hurtful it was to be excluded, because you thought you were friends first, and not just an ornament for her bridal party. Years later as she loses touch with those bridesmaids as they get on with their lives, she will remember that, and maybe she will have learned something about friendship.
Humera - 6 years ago
If my bridesmaid tells me she is having trouble juggling with school and bridesmaid duties and cannot come but just on the wedding, I would be mad too. I don't blame the bride but bride should have resorted to talk on the phone than email. I would have simply asked her why did she committed? I think first fault is of the bridesmaid. Bride is only at fault of her awkward email otherwise she has full rights to be mad afterall it's her BIG day.
Kathleen Symth - 6 years ago
This bride is so rude and imature.. A good friend would understand. You should do it in person or over the phone. Not in a e-mail you tacky little shit. I would never be your friend again.. I would also make sure that if any one asks I would tell the story and make you look as rude and a discusting person that you truly are. Do not be surprised if you loose friends and guests at your wedding. YOU ARE WAY TO SELF IMPORTANT AND SELF CENTERED. GET OVER YOUR SELF..
Lorri - 6 years ago
If there were other duties to preform and I as a bridesmaid could not be there then I would have suggested to my friend THE BRIDE that I could not commit and suggest that she choose someone else but I would be there for her as a guest.. The Bride should not have emailed her, she should have had the decency to pick up the phone and call her.
JD - 6 years ago
Sheesh! Whatever happened to the days when all a bridesmaid was expected to do was show up for the wedding in the appointed attire, walk here, stand there, pose for pictures, dance with a usually dorky usher at the reception and not get too stupid-hammered? All this destination stagette and multi-event BS is entirely new and consumer driven, thanks to the internet.
Colleen - 6 years ago
Yes. Although it wasn't the ideal thing to do and the bride should have called. It should not have ruined the friendship.
This happened to me. My best friend was a bridesmaid on the day, but she wasn’t around to help out at all or partake in the fun, just the rehearsal the night before. She couldn’t even be around to get the dress properly fitted. It was stressful for me dealing with her when maids are meant to be MY rock. From experience, I would say, it is the Bride’s right to make it work. Wish I had removed her, so I’m glad this bride did. It should not have ruined a friendship. The potential bridesmaid should know that. It’s not about her, it’s about the bride and groom to be. Friends can show their support in many ways. I would’ve saved myself months of correspondence agony. My friend would’ve still been there for the wedding ???? instead of in the party, as should this woman. The stars cannot always align to cater to the whims of all. It’s life.
Hey it’s the women’s special day and she has plans to rock this wedding hard and takes time to plan a wedding and I’m sure the bridesmaid knew well in advance what the dates were for the wedding and if she knew she can’t handle the work load she should of I would love to but I can’t to much at school and I can’t be there for you so then the beautiful bride would understand and ask another person to step in as bridesmaid! The bride been dreaming of this all her life and should go to her do what ever she wants some people think to much into things.
If I were the bridesmaid I would feel very hurt by being asked to step down. It would certainly end the friendship, because, hey, you were basically fired for not being able to party all that weekend. I think the bride is being selfish. If she had got a post secondary education, she should know her friend's responsibilities lay with committing to that over and above most all other things in life. Missing an exam or not turning in a paper because your friend needs you to party with her does not fly either asking for a deferral at post secondary institutions. Sure, the bridesmaid could still attend the wedding, but that smacks of being thrown a bone after being treated so rudely. And after the wedding, you are still excluded because you simply could not be there. No, if that happened to me I wouldn't put myself out further for a self-centered person as that. I would send the jumpsuit ( really? For a wedding?) back to her as a wedding present to open at the gift opening , with a nice note attached saying how hurtful it was to be excluded, because you thought you were friends first, and not just an ornament for her bridal party. Years later as she loses touch with those bridesmaids as they get on with their lives, she will remember that, and maybe she will have learned something about friendship.
If my bridesmaid tells me she is having trouble juggling with school and bridesmaid duties and cannot come but just on the wedding, I would be mad too. I don't blame the bride but bride should have resorted to talk on the phone than email. I would have simply asked her why did she committed? I think first fault is of the bridesmaid. Bride is only at fault of her awkward email otherwise she has full rights to be mad afterall it's her BIG day.
This bride is so rude and imature.. A good friend would understand. You should do it in person or over the phone. Not in a e-mail you tacky little shit. I would never be your friend again.. I would also make sure that if any one asks I would tell the story and make you look as rude and a discusting person that you truly are. Do not be surprised if you loose friends and guests at your wedding. YOU ARE WAY TO SELF IMPORTANT AND SELF CENTERED. GET OVER YOUR SELF..
If there were other duties to preform and I as a bridesmaid could not be there then I would have suggested to my friend THE BRIDE that I could not commit and suggest that she choose someone else but I would be there for her as a guest.. The Bride should not have emailed her, she should have had the decency to pick up the phone and call her.
Sheesh! Whatever happened to the days when all a bridesmaid was expected to do was show up for the wedding in the appointed attire, walk here, stand there, pose for pictures, dance with a usually dorky usher at the reception and not get too stupid-hammered? All this destination stagette and multi-event BS is entirely new and consumer driven, thanks to the internet.
Yes. Although it wasn't the ideal thing to do and the bride should have called. It should not have ruined the friendship.