Have You Ever Participated Or Seen Domestic Violence Among Your Friends And Family?

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  • KJ Dolla - 10 years ago

    I think this poll would have been more interesting if you would have separated the Seen and participated. See who would be honest under the veil of anonymity. I've seen my mom and sister be a victim of abuse, and I have also been abused, so much so I had to leave the house I was in during my senior year in school. It still bothers me to this day.

  • PrinceLeron - 10 years ago

    My mother had two kids with her first boyfriend and three more kids with my dad. My wouldn't consider my dad great by any means but he was more involved than all the absentee fathers of most of my friends in the projects. The little he did for his three biological kids, he made sure to do equal for my older brother and sister. I remember being twelve or thirteen looking at my dad thinking that is not the type of man I want to be when I grow. That was because of a couple of reasons but I still had no disdain for the dude. My older brother hated him and I could never understand and he would never tell me why. According to everyone else he should be happen that my dad stepped in when he father jumped ship and never looked back. I learned the answer a couple of years ago.

    My overheard my brother telling his wife the reason and his exact words were "I'll never like him, he used to beat my momma." I can't even describe the emotions that coursed through me when I heard that. My parents split when I was four so I don't have any memories of the abuse. So I went and asked my Mom why she ended up leaving my dad. I have never asked this before because I've always remembered them being apart. I think she saw that I knew and said, "your daddy used to be a mean man" and left it at that.

    Since that day I have had ZERO respect for that man. And to this day I have never brought it up with him. There is no conversation that can be had that could change the way that I see him. Whenever we are in the same space, I pretend to like him just enough to get by. I'm 27 now and feel content with the status of our relationship. I know that many people have forgiven abusers but I don't have it in me. Sometimes, I ask myself if I am being overly harsh, unfair or judgmental but then I think about him punching my momma in the face and get over it.

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