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Wow!!! What a dissappointment. He is a fantastic gulfer but must lack a lot of integrity and smarts. Did he really think he was the celebrity that Wouldn't get caught!!!! He should do everything possible to take care of his children now. The embarassment and pain he has caused them is immeasurable.
But the booting time has increased quite a lot...but I dont mind that since rest of the functionalities are almost perfect.
I love it. The final is considerably faster than the Betas or Alphas. My biggest (and probably only) complaint at this point is that, due to the new stupid Volume Controls, I can't unmute the output for Line-In or Mic inputs on my computer. This is important because I use that input for when I play video games using my Xbox360 connected to my monitor.
Spanking a child will only make teh child rebel against the parents,i used to hit my child and she has become a rebel ,i then stopped and she has sober down alot,absolutely no point spanking your child as its only a phase you get to see their naughtiness andafter they are grown up you long to see again.
I don't think so! The times I've learned the needed lessons best were those times when someone was willing to reason with me or allowed me to own up to my misdeeds and face such non violent consequences for my actions as restitution in money an labor, additional chores, writing apology letters-and sometimes publishing school related ones in the student newspapers-, and so on. When corporal punishment was part of the consequence, the destructive elements of humiliation and pain, very substantial with the more severe paddling and strapping punishments, more than offset any positive effects of discipline. In our family corporal punishment was reserved for "serious" offenses but authority figures in school, athletics, cub scouts, and other recreational organizations were permitted to spank us boys as deemed appropriate. Especially in my later teen years, a long and loud out side the home bare bottomed session with the "board of corrections", the "stinger zinger" or the "tail cracker" mortified me as any number of peers and staff almost invariably heard, or watched, me get spanked until I could just barely refrain from breaking down outright. I always put on a brave face-even when dancing around once released from position though the humiliation would burn my whole body long after any physical wounds from the strap or paddle healed. I resented having to struggle with this humiliation as I strove to realize my full potential as the healthy young man I appeared to be growing into as I approached adulthood.
you guys are sicikening.
-was spanked as a child, and you know what?
it did me no good.
I fear people especially men, I fear being touched.
a perfect example was at the ER last weekend, they wanted to do a pelvic on me, and I'm 22 and not sexually active.
the fear of that petrofied me, some of that may have to do with my visual and hearing impairments, but who kinows.
It is great that you are willing and ready to change. It does sound like you need some help immediately b/f you do cause physical or mental health problems for your child by beating them when out of control. Counseling help is available for difficulty dealing with children's behavior. It is important to get face to face help for this type of need. Ideas to find help include your local church, child's school, preschool teachers may have references to counselors in your area. Resources that should offer or help find counseling with a sliding scale include the local YMCA, United Way or Catholic Charities. You do not need to be a christian at all to use these resources. Please seek out face to face counseling to help both yourself and your child.
i'm a mother(very cruel)who beats her child(boy-almost 5yrs) so hard that sometimes i feel he will get some personality disorder because of it. i cannot control my anger when i see him doing things i've asked him not to! i push him to the floor, stamp him with my foot, beat him with whatever i can find handy(a water bottle, spatula and things like that). immediately after i start feeling guilty and now i'm scared i might cause more mental harm than physical by beating him so hard. kindly help me with some websites where i can find help or some online psychiatric help that i can find. i really want to control this behaviour of mine but unfortunately when i see him doing things that i have forbidden him from doing i loose all my control and start beating him as if he is not a human being!!!!!KINDLY HELP
Kids need dicipline. some more than others
Perhaps the reason pro-spank parents are angry because the every body is special let's not keep score crowd rally together to push worthless forms of correction down our throats with D.C.H.S, while they force useless medications down the throats of every kid acts out against their dont talk, dont play, dont laugh, Prozac laiden, makebelive world. You parents that think you can raise a child up to be a normal person ready for the demanding unforgiving and yes, violent world we live in without raising a hand to them;GOOD LUCK! However be ready when one of those kids goes ape shit and takes out half of their school. Do you remember thi first questions that were asked of the Columbine parents???? Those were kids that never got spanked. They never got any real parenting either. But I dont think you can argue against that a good old fashioned south Georgia ass whippin' for building bombs in the basement might have changed that outcome. A child starved for attention will act out for (any) attention,even the bad kind.Spanking should be used to discourage bad behavior. It should never be used to extract retribution for an offense. I rarely have to spank my kids, but you can bet they all know I will. I like to think they make good decisions and respect themselves and others because of the parenting I give them. Spanking them is part of that parenting. As of yet none of them have ever put a hole in another kid. Also, they apparently still love me and their mother. So maybe all of us evil spank happy people wouldn't be so angry if you misled Opra fans would just mind youre own buisness.
Spanking can be the best form of correction and can be the worst form of correction. It all depends on the attitude, the motivation, the spirit that it is done with. If it is done as a loving act for the benefit of the child it will not be excessive. If it is done as an act of obedience to God’s Word, God will show us what is appropriate. If it is done out of anger or frustration, even the slightest act is wrong, excessive and inappropriate.
I need to ask though, why do you care what is being taught in this church especially if it is an interpretation of scripture? There are many other things being taught in many other churches that have no foundation in scripture, but no one seems to be commenting or canvassing the neighborhoods in regard to them.
I find it interesting that the few very pro-spanking comments sound quite angry, almost self-satisfied about hitting their children, and a few seem overly familiar themselves with the experience of being arrested, acting unlawfully, etc..
Not as a general rule or general form of punishment. I support take aways as a good form of punishment, from childhood thru the teen years. However, there are times that a little shock treatment is appropriate and a good swift lick on the rear never harmed anyone (never on the face). A spank gets their attention = sometimes take aways aren't enough alone, add a swift lick to the rear side and give some adult advice, "You don't do that, it isn't acceptable! Next time will be worse for you." You have to follow up and be consistent. I am an old guy, and my Mother (a single Mom) used to bring out the hair brush and apply a good sound bent over lick to my bottom. I remember thinking about a repeat performance. No thanks.
You people are out of your tiny hipocrite minds! If you ever wonder what is wrong with the world today, look in the mirror. I spank my kids for matters of disrespect. I punish them with other methods for the normal things that kids will do, but spanking a kid's butt is necessary at times. I find it funny as all hell that you anti spank nazi's will call me abusive, yet feel fine about a society that has agents with a vast arsenal of weapons including "guns" that wont just slap,kick,punch and choke your little pride and joy, they will spray them with chemicals beat them with clubs and throw them in a cage! They will do it while three or four of their freinds hold your kid at gunpoint. So you folks need to pull your sheltered heads out of your asses. If you don't use a little well placed ass whipping when your kids are between terrible two and talk to the hand twelve, the cops will be happy to when they are as young as thirteen.
Spanking is an effective teaching tool. The problem I see isn't the method itself but parents who lose control too easily and hit their kids, even via spanking, out of anger and raw emotion. The only lesson this behavior can send is that self control is less important than getting your way. Spanking, like any discipline must be used with self control and patience, in a manner capable of teaching. As to some remarks that infants are too young to be spanked or to understand, I think that sentiment is only partially true. There are many dangers in households and infants, as they become mobile seem to be able to find them all. A quick spanking when they do will hurt them a lot less than falling, electrocution, getting cut or many other potential dangers. Even the most attentive parent cannot prevent or foresee everything.
Those rude, disrepectful children come from homes where parents are confused about whether they want to be a parent or a friend to their children. That is a different matter than what types of discipline /correction one uses with their children. Decent, even charming children come every day from homes where spanking is not used. Spanking to me just says, "might means right."
Spanking is NEVER ok. Spanking a child says that hitting is acceptable: it is violence. Parents need a huge tool box of techniques to help guide and teach children acceptable behavior, but spanking is never one of them.
Spanking teaches children to be sneaky and never be caught, or spanking teaches children to give in and never express their ideas. Parenting is a difficult job, parents need help and support. Talk to someone if you are feeling at wits end, don't take it out on your child.
Spanking is still beating your child, it is still physical abuse. Both of my parents used to spank me, and every time they spanked me, it was in the heat of the moment, their emotions were still flying. Not once did they calmly come to me and say, "John. You know what you did. Come get your spanking." Usually they would grab my head or shoulders, spin me around, and start wailing on me. On top of the physical abuse associated with spanking, there was always the verbal abuse. My father was the worst, incessantly telling me how much of a failure I was to him. My point in saying all of this is that spanking was NEVER a way to discipline me.
The sole purpose of spanking is for the spanker to vent their anger and frustrations out on the spankee. That is not love, it is only abuse. Spankers should be in jail for abusing their children.
The dark ages contiinue. Long term studies have clearly shown that children who are hit become hitters. Its that simple.
Using violence against a child (OR A DOG FOR THAT MATTER) is simply a failure of the parent to understand how human behavior can and should be shaped with love, structure, reward, and non-violent punishment.
We are a ridiculously violent nation. It starts with abuse of our children.
It's interesting that it is christians who seem to lead the defense of child abuse. (see focus on the family)
I think "most" of the spanking opposition is based on ideology, not experience. People generally understand the difference between corporal punishment and abuse. Confusing the two is something that the ideologues do.
Have you ever seen a Shepard guide sheep with a rod? They give them a smart whack to the hindquarters, or they let the sheep dogs nip at their legs! Of course we're not talking about a knock the ball out of the park baseball swing of a beating - but if you don't use some physical force once in a while they aren't going to get it. Of course I'm talking about sheep here...
I don't think the problem with kids today is a lack of spanking, I think it's a lack of attention from their over worked and stressed out parents.
When the Bible says Spare the rod, spoil the child, it is referring to the rod that shepherd's use to GUIDE sheep to go where the shepherd wants them to go. Shepherds did not use the rods to beat the sheep! Rods were used for guidance. When someone says that spanking is good for infants who resist diaper changes, I would call Child Protective Services! I remember that other kooky Christian parenting "expert" who recommended getting infants to submit to feeding schedules. Then after some infants DIED, he was forced to revise that chapter of his book. Maybe Mars Hill should invite the FLDS parenting expert who recommends waterboarding infants who resist diaper changes. I will never view Mars Hill Church the same way again....
Wow. People, this poll is talking about "spanking" not "beating" a child. There is a huge difference between spanking and abuse. I was spanked as a child and a few times up to around a teenager. I always joke that I was not spanked enough growing up. My dad would sit me down and "talk" to me when I was being disciplined and then spank me. The worst part was the talking. I just wanted him to spank me and get it over with.
So many children live such spoiled lives that they have no respect for others and are generally lazy. American children are proof of it. Bottom line: do I think children should be spanked? Absolutely. Most of the kids I see and interact with NEED to be spanked. They are rude and inconsiderate and need discipline. And to everyone who will flame me: sitting in a corner, time-out, taking away a child's I-pod or cell phone, these are not constructive forms of discipline. They do not work and anyone who thinks they work better than actual punishments are absurdly mistaken.
Remember, this poll is talking about spanking, not physical abuse......huge difference.
As the mother of a wonderful 3.5 year old, I have recent first hand experience with living with a small human being who is totally new to this world and completely lacking in the knowledge of how it works. As her parents, we have guided her with love and respect and NEVER once hit or spanked her. I do not want her to grow up thinking that when someone does something you don't like, it is permissible to hit that person, whether he is related to her or not. I do not want her to believe that it is acceptable for people who love you to hit you. I want her to have the skills she needs to seek out the peaceful path in this world that is dominated by those who have power and often use force to maintain that power.
May we all strive to leave the world a better place through the children we are raising to look after it when we are gone; let's create a lasting legacy of lovers, not fighters!
I think this poll misses the point of the article. I think (hope) the results would be different if the question was "Do you think habitually spanking a baby under the age of one is appropriate" which is what Tripp is advocating and where the controversy lies.
Violence breeds violence.
As a state-licensed foster parent I was not allowed to spank. I had more than one child living with us who came from a Christian-based home where trying to get a little one to submit caused battering and abuse--knocked out teeth and ruptured ear drums. Children can be guided to make good choices and be responsible family and larger society members without using force.
I would disagree with the opinion that a "rod of correction" has to leave a mark. I think the point is not to inflict pain, but to have a disciplinary action, that, as previously stated is used sparingly. I have had conversations with friends and we have agreed that (at least in our experiences) it was not a fear of pain but a fear of being disciplined that made one think twice before acting out. I would also agree that parents calming down and assessing the situation is excellent, however in some instances an appropriate might sometimes be a spanking.
This survey is slightly misleading. While it is evident that most condone spanking, the article and most commentators are taking issue with another level of detail, spanking infants, excessive spanking, etc. This survey would have been better had it delineated between "spanking rarely" and "spanking multiple times a day," or similar.
Kristin, what exactly do you mean "must be done with love?" How can you say you "love" a child when you are hitting them? 1.5?? Do you realize that children are not even CLOSE to being developed enough to know why you are hittting them until much older? Hitting children, which make no mistake about it when you "spank" you are hitting" is simply not the way to show a child his mistake. Children learn so much better without the potential violence hitting/spanking shows them. Research has CLEARLY shown that children raised in non-violent homes (i.e., no hitting/spanking) in the vast majority of the time grow up without violence in their lives. If you TRUELY love a child, you find other non-physical ways to teach and guide and direct your kids. Hitting simply sends the wrong message. Biblical? Hardly...The New Testament is full of passages where Jesus CLEARLY says no harm should come to His children. Matthew, for example, speaks specifically that should any harm come to My children, may they have a stone around their neck and flung into the depths of the ocean....I think that's pretty clear, don't you?
I raised 2 sons without ever hitting..giving non physical consequences, accountability for their actions as they got older, mis-directing their energies elsewhere when naughty as little ones. It is hard work, but who says being a parent is easy! LOL..
Folks...think of when YOU were spanked. How did you feel? Was it embarrassing and humiliating? (older children) Did you carry that fear and pain long after it was done? Was your parent angry? Too many times, in fact, MOST of the time, parents, unfortunately, they are tired, angry, and lash out too often rather than calming themselves down. Once calm, most parents then tend to shy away from spanking because once they think clearly they realize it is not the best way to teach their children the correct behavior.
Lastly, remember, what Tripp is teaching is simply AGAINST THE LAW. If your children are found with marks (and trust me, when you strike a child with a "rod of correction", belt, cane, or paddle, you DO leave marks and bruises), it is illegal in nearly every state, and you risk not only being investigated by DSHS, but arrested and losing custody of your children. God or not, the courts here frown completely on hitting of children.
Thanks....A loving dad
My father said that when parents spank children its usually because the parents are out of control, not the kids. I have always remembered that. I rarely spanked my (now teenage) daughters and when I did I knew he was right.
I was spanked as a child and all it taught me was how to be sneaky and dishonest to my parents so I wouldn't get spanked again. It made me rebel against my father.
I have never spanked my 10 year old daughter and she is well-behaved and polite. She and I communicate openly, reinforcing the important parent-child bond that is so important as we head into the teen years.
I believe spanking an infant or a child who is too young to understand
the motive behind the spanking is never okay. Spanking is best used between
about 1, 1.5 and maybe 5 yrs old - and is best used Very Sparingly.
When used properly, spanking can provide proper discipline to a child but
parents using this MUST remember to not lash out (a spanking is not a beating!) and spank in anger - there must be control. And parents must provide plenty of love too.
Spanking is a last resort. Parents will find they have better luck with rewarding the right behaviors... this will create a more positive, respectful
family harmony.
I find it abhorrent that anyone's goal in disciplining a child is to "create submission." Whatever happened to teaching children HOW rather than WHAT to think? Whatever happened to delighting in children being individuals instead of zombie robots.
Shame.