@M.J.: In case you have not noticed, the roaming bands of teens carjacking/robbing/murdering are all black. You can play pretend and ignore the truth, but that is why nothing changes. America does not want to have an honest discussion about race.
JoSixPak - 6 years ago
How can parents step up when they themselves are dopehead derelicts on welfare?
M. J. - 6 years ago
First and foremost I will not make racially charged statements pertaining to specific racial groups because the last time I checked "teens" consist of blacks, whites, hispanics, etc. So to the ignorant person that referred to "Apes," you are ridiculous I and small minded.
The problem is the justice system. When juveniles are arrested for various crimes like auto Theft and burglary… the DAVIDSON County Justice system responds by giving this little criminals a tap on the hand, then let's them right out again to committ even more crimes. Prosecuting attorney's appear to be lazy and love to do nothing after police officers risk their lives to arrest these juvenile criminals.
Why are surrounding counties harder on criminals than DAVIDSON County???!
JoSixPak - 6 years ago
Rehome the apes to Africa and the problem is solved. #truth
Jerry - 6 years ago
In my opinion, and that's all it is, is opinion, parents are already trying to do the best they can to raise their child to be a responsible citizen. In many cases, it's a single parent trying to provide for a family (usually the mother) and, between working and making a home, they really spend a limited amount of time with the kids. So I think the problem is so broad that it cannot be answered by a simple 4 option survey. Cops are "after the fact" non solutions, programs in schools only work if the kid goes to school and they are interested, and "more community programs" will cost more than most communities can afford.
Kids are dealing with peer pressure, bullying, cell phones, video games (which I believe brainwash our children into a mindset that violence and killing are a solution to achieve an objective) , drugs, violence and who knows what else. I'm not a kid anymore, so I don't pretend to know everything they are dealing with. I grew up in the country and my high school class had 74 kids in it. We had lots of responsibilities back then, but single parent households were nearly non existent, and homework and school was our first responsibility.
No, I think we have a core social problem, one that requires a change in environment. When I was a kid, we still had the draft, which gave literally hundreds of thousands of young men an option other than hanging out on a street corner and getting in trouble. In my dad's era it was the Civilian Conservation Corp, or CCC. We need a program like that that puts our young people on a track to responsible adulthood by taking them out of the environment that fosters bad behavior and giving them a marketable skill.
JOHN - 6 years ago
I HAVE A KID WHO IS MEAN AS A SNAKE IN AUGUST LITTLE ASSHOLE GOES AROUND CUSSING HIS MOMMA AND GRANDPARENTS I DONT UNDERSTAND HIM I RAISED HIM IN CHURCH TOOK HIM TO THE LORD AND ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS SIT IN FROMT OF THAT DARNED OLD TV NEVER WANTS TO DO SCHOOLWORK HE SKIPS HIS ASSIGNMENTS AND THROWS ROCKS AT FEDEX DRIVERS WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM I DONT KNOW NEXT STEP IS GETTING HIS BUT TO MILITARY ACADEMY BUT I DONT KNOW HOW MUCH IT COSTS I DONT WANT HIM TO BE A DRUGGIE OBAMA SUPPORTER.
mlromine - 6 years ago
I say that if the crime these kids commit is punishable by incarceration, I say put the parents in jail with them.
I am A Parent - 6 years ago
@Will Did you even attend school? Do you have comprehension problems? You must not have read the part where I spanked her and she called 911? Idiots like you should never have children!! Not only did the teacher not discipline my child, the TEACHER told my child to call 911 if I DISCIPLINED HER!! You must be a real piece of work WILL. You are so stupid you cannot even comprehend what you read. We tried EVERYTHING with the youngest daughter. Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, friends to have talks with her. We tried logic, very strict, even professional counseling listed in my previous post. You further show your stupidity by talking about bailing her out of Juvi. You don't get bailed out of Juvi fool!! She is my daughter and I will always love her but not one penny from me ever since straight to the drug dealer she goes. She has very good manners and will say whatever she thinks you want to hear while lying straight to your face. Maybe Will, just maybe, you will learn to read rather than show how stupid and ignorant you are on a public forum. This is a discussion about parenting and I posted what I went thru as an example that parenting is not as simple as it seems because all children are different. You do not eveer compare one child to another, they are each individuals. I wouldn't wish a person like you on my worst enemy. The only thing shitty in this forum is your know it all ass.
IEATBUBBLES - 6 years ago
Will, you are just making assumptions about "I am a parent".
He or she was just sharing an example of how sometimes, the behavior of the child seems to be in the individual makeup.
Sometimes kids can be little shíts too, no matter how hard a parent tries.
I like how "I am a parent" was opting to let the daughter stay in jail after she made the bad choice.
Situations like that almost always come down to the funding available.
No doubt, the younger daughter has some mental health issues going on, and even though the parent asked for help, no one would keep her long enough to make a difference due to money issues.
Instead of building a ridiculous wall, we need to be working for the well-being of our neighbors and loved-ones.
Will - 6 years ago
Dang! I am a parent! Wow! You must make your younger, food stamp using, obama care living, food voucher participating daughter feel special around the holidays. Jesus Christ. Maybe one thing you could have done better was talk to her or about her with a little respect first and stop comparing her to the more perfect older daughter. Secondly, parents who dont allow teachers to discipline their kids at school typically are nothing more than enablers. That can be another discussion though. And what happened when at home after she got back from her juvi trips? After you enabled her by paying her ass out of jail? Did you spank her? Ground her? What sort of discipline did you do? My bet nothing. You sound like an enabler. Oh, and your daughter is fourty now? Sounds like a perfect angel really. With parenting like you stated it sounds like she is truly special considering the shitty parenting you spoke about for the younger more evil sister. Look in the mirror.
I Am A Parent - 6 years ago
Here is what happened to me as a parent. I have two daughters, 3 years apart in age. Oldest daughter never a bit of trouble. Both went to same school, same church. Oldest daughter got job at 16, made good grades, associates degree in graphic arts. Wonderful person. Youngest daughter nothing but trouble. Ran away with friends at 15, drove over 700 miles to pick her up. Skipped school so I started driving her to school. School would call because as soon as I let her out she would go in front door and out the back. Sent her to Lakewood at cost of over $25000 with no change in her whatsoever. Dropped out of school at 16. Refused to work. Caught stealing and told police to keep her. Nope, they would hold her 3 days then I had to pay $75 a day to juvenile court. Told me her TEACHERS at school said if I spanked her she was to call 911 and then she cussed me out. I spanked her. She called 911. Police came and checked her out and said if I had left welts I would be in jail for child abuse. Police then gave her lecture about her attitude and told her to straighten up. She refused to give me the teachers name to this day because I would have been at school giving that teacher a piece of my mind. Today my oldest daughter is 40, same job for 15 years, nice retirement going and savings account and all around good person. Youngest daughter been in jail more times than I can count, identity theft, drug use, shoplifting, you name it she has done it. Now please tell me how I could have done anything different with two girls brought up exact same way and one is tax paying, law abiding citizen and the other is nothing but trouble living on food stamps, rent vouchers, and free Obama care. Parenting is not always the answer or the blame.
IEATBUBBLES - 6 years ago
Parents love their children, and children love their parents. A child who has reached teen years especially, will be hurt to see their parent struggle to make ends meet and will want to do something to help them.
Unfortunately, their brains are not mature enough to always make good choices, and they don't realize the consequences will hurt their situation more in the long run.
Kids need to be taught right from wrong, absolutely, but they also need their basic human needs met.
Iatebubbles - 6 years ago
A living wage has nothing to do with teaching your child right from wrong and discipline. If nothing else you should teach your children to work hard for things that they want to reach in life. But you must be so narrow-minded you don't understand that.
Fernando - 6 years ago
More parents have to work with their children. Unfortunately society today has tied their hands. There is also that lack of accountability from the parents, schools and needs to be less government interference.
IEATBUBBLES - 6 years ago
Parents all the way...but the parents also need a living wage to provide for their families.
Paddle - 6 years ago
Maybe if the parents took time out of their life to raise their children and not always try to push them on someone else and play the victim. When I was a child if I did something wrong I got paddled at school or got my butt busted at home that's how I learn right from wrong. Too many people nowadays want to talk about the problem or make excuses about the problem instead of taking it head-on.
USMCVET39 - 6 years ago
I believe stuff outside of the school would be better. Can’t blame things on parents. We only can teach our kids and young people good and bad. It’s up to them just like everyone else to make the right decision. We all make mistakes and no one is perfect but don’t put the blame on parents or teachers. We have to come together as a TEAM. Just as we did in the Marine Corps. Let these kids know just how bad their lives can be if they chose the wrong path or road. I have noticed over the last several years violence along all ages is getting worse and that’s not a good thing. More outside programs or events would keep young people busy or entertained. Gotta start somewhere. Good luck God bless and Semper Fi.
Carolyn Brooks - 6 years ago
All of the above should matter. Parents listening to their children, teachers showing concern over bullying, and bullies and their families facing consequences all matter. Continuing summer jobs and police coming to schools showing their real interest in those students by speaking an teaching I am your friend not just someone who arrest people. And stop blaming “every” lawmaker for what others lawmakers are not doing.There are those who are really trying to make things better,but politics and lobbyists are holding the others hostage and hence more illegal gun usage is spreading
jay - 6 years ago
I think more in school....they took that imporant part in school where real ppl came in talk among each other about what ever and new drugs an sex etc.....we had health an also DARE pgm.......yea it start at home but when we have to send our kid to school i think at that time they we the other kids its should be someone else beside the parents asking questions or Wondering whats going on when they have a class they express the issue so somebody know other then not knowing.....my opinion
Willard Pontius - 6 years ago
We need to hold Parents responsible for the actions of their kids. Where are your children ? Who do they hang out with? Where are they getting things from? Do they attend school? A slap on the wrist for juvenile crimes is a joke.
Carlos W. - 6 years ago
Currently “Parents need to step up” is WAY out in front, because it’s the responsible thing to do.
Asking communities to dole out funds to provide more programs for these idle hands or more enforcers to punish misbehavior, is a waste of breath.
First, stop calling them “teens.” It attempts to excuse their misbehavior with their relative ages to adults. Second, stop ignoring the race and class of these offenders. It’s gross negligence to pretend that all demographics experience equal levels of degenerate behavior, and it glosses over the fact that most victims are of the same race as the aggressors. Third, America should expect more of its children. Treat them like they have promise, not like coddled children. Eighteen used to be the age you were expected to leave the house as an adult, old enough to vote, pay taxes, serve your country (if desired), and go better yourself. Now you have generations and classes of people that has been taught to find an illness, cling to it, earn SSI/disability benefits, then barely make it for the rest of their lives, blaming the very system that allows them this path for their misfortunes.
It’s time the responsible teach the irresponsible how to parent, thrive, and help others succeed by being an example to their communities. If that doesn’t happen, no amount of distraction or discipline will break the cycle, and 40 years from now we’ll be asking ourselves these same questions we asked 40 years ago.
@M.J.: In case you have not noticed, the roaming bands of teens carjacking/robbing/murdering are all black. You can play pretend and ignore the truth, but that is why nothing changes. America does not want to have an honest discussion about race.
How can parents step up when they themselves are dopehead derelicts on welfare?
First and foremost I will not make racially charged statements pertaining to specific racial groups because the last time I checked "teens" consist of blacks, whites, hispanics, etc. So to the ignorant person that referred to "Apes," you are ridiculous I and small minded.
The problem is the justice system. When juveniles are arrested for various crimes like auto Theft and burglary… the DAVIDSON County Justice system responds by giving this little criminals a tap on the hand, then let's them right out again to committ even more crimes. Prosecuting attorney's appear to be lazy and love to do nothing after police officers risk their lives to arrest these juvenile criminals.
Why are surrounding counties harder on criminals than DAVIDSON County???!
Rehome the apes to Africa and the problem is solved. #truth
In my opinion, and that's all it is, is opinion, parents are already trying to do the best they can to raise their child to be a responsible citizen. In many cases, it's a single parent trying to provide for a family (usually the mother) and, between working and making a home, they really spend a limited amount of time with the kids. So I think the problem is so broad that it cannot be answered by a simple 4 option survey. Cops are "after the fact" non solutions, programs in schools only work if the kid goes to school and they are interested, and "more community programs" will cost more than most communities can afford.
Kids are dealing with peer pressure, bullying, cell phones, video games (which I believe brainwash our children into a mindset that violence and killing are a solution to achieve an objective) , drugs, violence and who knows what else. I'm not a kid anymore, so I don't pretend to know everything they are dealing with. I grew up in the country and my high school class had 74 kids in it. We had lots of responsibilities back then, but single parent households were nearly non existent, and homework and school was our first responsibility.
No, I think we have a core social problem, one that requires a change in environment. When I was a kid, we still had the draft, which gave literally hundreds of thousands of young men an option other than hanging out on a street corner and getting in trouble. In my dad's era it was the Civilian Conservation Corp, or CCC. We need a program like that that puts our young people on a track to responsible adulthood by taking them out of the environment that fosters bad behavior and giving them a marketable skill.
I HAVE A KID WHO IS MEAN AS A SNAKE IN AUGUST LITTLE ASSHOLE GOES AROUND CUSSING HIS MOMMA AND GRANDPARENTS I DONT UNDERSTAND HIM I RAISED HIM IN CHURCH TOOK HIM TO THE LORD AND ALL HE WANTS TO DO IS SIT IN FROMT OF THAT DARNED OLD TV NEVER WANTS TO DO SCHOOLWORK HE SKIPS HIS ASSIGNMENTS AND THROWS ROCKS AT FEDEX DRIVERS WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM I DONT KNOW NEXT STEP IS GETTING HIS BUT TO MILITARY ACADEMY BUT I DONT KNOW HOW MUCH IT COSTS I DONT WANT HIM TO BE A DRUGGIE OBAMA SUPPORTER.
I say that if the crime these kids commit is punishable by incarceration, I say put the parents in jail with them.
@Will Did you even attend school? Do you have comprehension problems? You must not have read the part where I spanked her and she called 911? Idiots like you should never have children!! Not only did the teacher not discipline my child, the TEACHER told my child to call 911 if I DISCIPLINED HER!! You must be a real piece of work WILL. You are so stupid you cannot even comprehend what you read. We tried EVERYTHING with the youngest daughter. Aunts, Uncles, Cousins, friends to have talks with her. We tried logic, very strict, even professional counseling listed in my previous post. You further show your stupidity by talking about bailing her out of Juvi. You don't get bailed out of Juvi fool!! She is my daughter and I will always love her but not one penny from me ever since straight to the drug dealer she goes. She has very good manners and will say whatever she thinks you want to hear while lying straight to your face. Maybe Will, just maybe, you will learn to read rather than show how stupid and ignorant you are on a public forum. This is a discussion about parenting and I posted what I went thru as an example that parenting is not as simple as it seems because all children are different. You do not eveer compare one child to another, they are each individuals. I wouldn't wish a person like you on my worst enemy. The only thing shitty in this forum is your know it all ass.
Will, you are just making assumptions about "I am a parent".
He or she was just sharing an example of how sometimes, the behavior of the child seems to be in the individual makeup.
Sometimes kids can be little shíts too, no matter how hard a parent tries.
I like how "I am a parent" was opting to let the daughter stay in jail after she made the bad choice.
Situations like that almost always come down to the funding available.
No doubt, the younger daughter has some mental health issues going on, and even though the parent asked for help, no one would keep her long enough to make a difference due to money issues.
Instead of building a ridiculous wall, we need to be working for the well-being of our neighbors and loved-ones.
Dang! I am a parent! Wow! You must make your younger, food stamp using, obama care living, food voucher participating daughter feel special around the holidays. Jesus Christ. Maybe one thing you could have done better was talk to her or about her with a little respect first and stop comparing her to the more perfect older daughter. Secondly, parents who dont allow teachers to discipline their kids at school typically are nothing more than enablers. That can be another discussion though. And what happened when at home after she got back from her juvi trips? After you enabled her by paying her ass out of jail? Did you spank her? Ground her? What sort of discipline did you do? My bet nothing. You sound like an enabler. Oh, and your daughter is fourty now? Sounds like a perfect angel really. With parenting like you stated it sounds like she is truly special considering the shitty parenting you spoke about for the younger more evil sister. Look in the mirror.
Here is what happened to me as a parent. I have two daughters, 3 years apart in age. Oldest daughter never a bit of trouble. Both went to same school, same church. Oldest daughter got job at 16, made good grades, associates degree in graphic arts. Wonderful person. Youngest daughter nothing but trouble. Ran away with friends at 15, drove over 700 miles to pick her up. Skipped school so I started driving her to school. School would call because as soon as I let her out she would go in front door and out the back. Sent her to Lakewood at cost of over $25000 with no change in her whatsoever. Dropped out of school at 16. Refused to work. Caught stealing and told police to keep her. Nope, they would hold her 3 days then I had to pay $75 a day to juvenile court. Told me her TEACHERS at school said if I spanked her she was to call 911 and then she cussed me out. I spanked her. She called 911. Police came and checked her out and said if I had left welts I would be in jail for child abuse. Police then gave her lecture about her attitude and told her to straighten up. She refused to give me the teachers name to this day because I would have been at school giving that teacher a piece of my mind. Today my oldest daughter is 40, same job for 15 years, nice retirement going and savings account and all around good person. Youngest daughter been in jail more times than I can count, identity theft, drug use, shoplifting, you name it she has done it. Now please tell me how I could have done anything different with two girls brought up exact same way and one is tax paying, law abiding citizen and the other is nothing but trouble living on food stamps, rent vouchers, and free Obama care. Parenting is not always the answer or the blame.
Parents love their children, and children love their parents. A child who has reached teen years especially, will be hurt to see their parent struggle to make ends meet and will want to do something to help them.
Unfortunately, their brains are not mature enough to always make good choices, and they don't realize the consequences will hurt their situation more in the long run.
Kids need to be taught right from wrong, absolutely, but they also need their basic human needs met.
A living wage has nothing to do with teaching your child right from wrong and discipline. If nothing else you should teach your children to work hard for things that they want to reach in life. But you must be so narrow-minded you don't understand that.
More parents have to work with their children. Unfortunately society today has tied their hands. There is also that lack of accountability from the parents, schools and needs to be less government interference.
Parents all the way...but the parents also need a living wage to provide for their families.
Maybe if the parents took time out of their life to raise their children and not always try to push them on someone else and play the victim. When I was a child if I did something wrong I got paddled at school or got my butt busted at home that's how I learn right from wrong. Too many people nowadays want to talk about the problem or make excuses about the problem instead of taking it head-on.
I believe stuff outside of the school would be better. Can’t blame things on parents. We only can teach our kids and young people good and bad. It’s up to them just like everyone else to make the right decision. We all make mistakes and no one is perfect but don’t put the blame on parents or teachers. We have to come together as a TEAM. Just as we did in the Marine Corps. Let these kids know just how bad their lives can be if they chose the wrong path or road. I have noticed over the last several years violence along all ages is getting worse and that’s not a good thing. More outside programs or events would keep young people busy or entertained. Gotta start somewhere. Good luck God bless and Semper Fi.
All of the above should matter. Parents listening to their children, teachers showing concern over bullying, and bullies and their families facing consequences all matter. Continuing summer jobs and police coming to schools showing their real interest in those students by speaking an teaching I am your friend not just someone who arrest people. And stop blaming “every” lawmaker for what others lawmakers are not doing.There are those who are really trying to make things better,but politics and lobbyists are holding the others hostage and hence more illegal gun usage is spreading
I think more in school....they took that imporant part in school where real ppl came in talk among each other about what ever and new drugs an sex etc.....we had health an also DARE pgm.......yea it start at home but when we have to send our kid to school i think at that time they we the other kids its should be someone else beside the parents asking questions or Wondering whats going on when they have a class they express the issue so somebody know other then not knowing.....my opinion
We need to hold Parents responsible for the actions of their kids. Where are your children ? Who do they hang out with? Where are they getting things from? Do they attend school? A slap on the wrist for juvenile crimes is a joke.
Currently “Parents need to step up” is WAY out in front, because it’s the responsible thing to do.
Asking communities to dole out funds to provide more programs for these idle hands or more enforcers to punish misbehavior, is a waste of breath.
First, stop calling them “teens.” It attempts to excuse their misbehavior with their relative ages to adults. Second, stop ignoring the race and class of these offenders. It’s gross negligence to pretend that all demographics experience equal levels of degenerate behavior, and it glosses over the fact that most victims are of the same race as the aggressors. Third, America should expect more of its children. Treat them like they have promise, not like coddled children. Eighteen used to be the age you were expected to leave the house as an adult, old enough to vote, pay taxes, serve your country (if desired), and go better yourself. Now you have generations and classes of people that has been taught to find an illness, cling to it, earn SSI/disability benefits, then barely make it for the rest of their lives, blaming the very system that allows them this path for their misfortunes.
It’s time the responsible teach the irresponsible how to parent, thrive, and help others succeed by being an example to their communities. If that doesn’t happen, no amount of distraction or discipline will break the cycle, and 40 years from now we’ll be asking ourselves these same questions we asked 40 years ago.